This is a follow up to my last post ‘Extreme Cheese’.
After talking about how tough and exhausting it is to parent my children, I thought I needed to communicate the much more positive side to it.
There is so much about my baby boy (my ‘extreme cheese’) that I feel positive about. I am amazed by him and I adore him. So if it’s not the first thing that comes out of my mouth, forgive me, sometimes my exhaustion is really that mind-blowing that it takes over everything else I feel.
Let me sum up the awesome things about Baby J.
- He loves life. His enthusiasm for exploring and learning is infectious.
- He approaches new things with a glorious sense of wonder.
- He is determined and fearless. He is driven to succeed!
- He has mighty strength. I’m sure his physical and mental strength will bolster him through life.
- He is affectionate. He snuggles in and gives great cuddles.
- He is happy. He is so smiley and has a delicious sense of humour.
- He is charming. He has a huge personality. He loves interacting with people and ‘chatting’ to them.
- He is a bright spark. An energetic and lively child is much more preferrable to one who is completely idle.
- He is secure. He is rarely anxious or fearful. He knows he is loved and heard.
- Imagine what he is capable of in the future?
There’s also a multitude of positive things that my son has taught me.
Baby J has taught me to find other solutions – to be creative and to search deep. He’s taught me that the best way of helping him is to listen to him. I’m not a mother that imposes strict routines or expectations on my children anyway, but if we had travelled that path I think we would have found it even more difficult. It’s been a matter of listening to his rhythms, finding what works for him, and tuning in.
Baby J has taught me to be even more flexible than I thought I already was. I’ve have to let most things ‘go’. When we become parents we embrace the chaos that comes with babies, but with Baby J I’ve had to embrace chaos and sacrifice freedom on profoundly deeper level than before. Everything is on hold for this season. Accepting this has been difficult, but I think it has taught me to be patient. Deep breaths as I go. It has taught me to never take things for granted, like the freedom of movement, the joy of my own space, and the pleasure of ‘getting something done’. One day when I get those things I am going to be ecstatic.
Ultimately, my boy has taught me to be compassionate. He’s taught me to think about how he has been struggling through this last year as much as I have. He’s taught me to have empathy. And he’s opened my heart to love in bigger way than I thought was possible.
I love my boy, my awesome extreme cheese. He is a blazing meteor and he’s going to light up our lives.
*Image credit: Let It Go by Michael Leunig